One of the most damaging
occurrences that can take place in one's marriage is an emotional affair. It is
a tricky topic YourLoveMeet and can be
confusing to many as to whether or not it really is "cheating".Let's
take a look today at just how emotional affairs and marriage do not mix.
It is not uncommon for your spouse
to have a friend of the opposite sex with whom they share a close bond. Often
your spouse may have had this friend before you and they met. You may not
particularly like the idea, because of the potential of it leading to something
more, but you may or may not have accepted it.
But perhaps your spouse has
developed this type of relationship with someone since you were married. A
co-worker or someone they see at the gym regularly. In today's day and age with
technology, you find they spend a great deal of time chatting or texting with
this person. You may be finding yourself having thoughts you may not normally
have about your spouse. Indeed, you may be having doubts as to what their
intentions are for this relationship.
If you find yourself in this
situation, you may be experiencing a common, and normal, reaction and asking
yourself, YourChristianDate.com"why
is he or she not pulling closer to me?" Or perhaps you are wondering,
"Is talking all that they are doing?"
The reason you are feeling this way
is that your spouse is expending emotional energy with a person that isn't you.
They are building an intimate connection with a person outside of your
relationship, and naturally you feel like that connection should be built with
you. They may not yet have a physical relationship, but if your spouse has
built an intimate connection with this person, then more than likely they are
currently having an emotional affair.
The Damage Emotional Affairs Cause
to a Marriage
When an emotional affair occurs
between your spouse and someone else, the intimacy that exists between you and
them starts to erode. The affection that should be directed to you is instead
directed Amolatina to their
friend. They may be sharing their deepest and innermost feelings, and this
forms a strong emotional connection.
This also means they are probably not
sharing these things with you, the person that they have pledged their life to.
This can cause the foundation of your marriage to become damaged. Even if the
relationship has not become physical, it is indeed a form of cheating.
Often times, couples will argue
extensively over whether or not this relationship is appropriate or is indeed
cheating. If find yourself in this situation, a common trademark of an
emotional relationship is a lack of openness or transparency. Do they hide
their screen when they chat online? Do they only talk or chat on the phone in
private? These are telltale signs of an inappropriate emotional relationship.
Getting the Emotional Connection
Back Where it Belongs
So what do you do to get your
spouse to turn their attention back to you and not to someone else? To indeed
intercept things before they do indeed turn physical. First, your spouse needs
to own up to the fact that they are in fact involved in an inappropriate
emotional relationship with a member of the opposite sex outside of your
marriage. They may not even realize it has crossed a boundary, but the two of
you need to discuss it open and honestly.
1. Rebuilding Your Own Emotional
Connection
To rebuild your own emotional
connection, you need to first do an analysis of your relationship with your
spouse. Has there been a breakdown in communication between the two of you? Are
there signs of neglect to one another? When is the last time that you said
something to each other that made you or them feel special? Whatever the answers
are, it is time to put forth the effort to rebuild your emotional bond.
2. Assess All of Your Communication
There are two types of
communication that exist in a relationship: verbal and non-verbal. In order to
have a full and completely intimate relationship, you need to have both.
Verbal communication is easy... you
talk to each other in a supportive and positive manner. Non-verbal is spending
time together. It's those little things you do when you are together, such as
holding hands, touching each other, special looks shared together.
Make a commitment to strengthen
both types of communication with each other. In most cases, it is simply a
matter of setting aside more time for each other. Make time each night to spend
time together instead of watching TV in separate rooms. Set a weekly date
night. Go grocery shopping together.
3. Be Persistent
Communication tends to take time to
break down, very much like erosion. Conversely, you may find that it takes time
for your communication with each other to improve. Be persistent and stay the
course. Your marriage and relationship could be at stake.
You will probably find that you
need to do things differently. Perhaps in the morning, instead of just grunting
good morning without looking up from your laptop, get up and give your spouse a
hug to say good morning. Look them in the eye and start the day off on a
positive note.
Changes in habits that have
developed over time can be difficult and will often feel awkward, but you will
find that by staying persistent and determined, you and your spouse will begin
to develop that emotional bound that you shared when the two of you took your
vows in the first place.
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