There is no doubt that affairs can cause a lot of pain, heartache and destruction to the marriage. Many people ask LatinFeels.com Reviews me how they can affair-proof their marriage or ruin their cheating wife's or husbands affair.
The following 4 steps are crucial
at keeping an affair at bay, as well as listening to your partners complaints
and addressing anything you are longing for. Otherwise resistance from needs
not being met, can lead to resentment, resentment then causes distance as all
resentment is, is repressed anger, eventually built up resentment leads to
rejection and this is where affairs can easily happen. Key is speaking up and
dealing with issues in the resistance stage.
So what can you do to avoid an
affair in your marriage?
Affair-Proof Your Marriage
1. Recognize that we all have the
capacity to cheat
That we are all vulnerable, that it
can happen to anyone and any couple. As more often than not it comes down to
needs not being met. If there is any amount of frustration, hurt or resentment
about LatinFeels our needs
not being met and then someone comes along and gives us those needs, they pay
us attention, show affection and tell us how great we are, even those with the
strongest willpower may crack if they are not aware that we are all vulnerable.
It may sound strange but Awareness is the first key protecting your marriage,
realizing that it may not be that the other person is perfect for us,
wonderful, real love or our soul mate, that what we are more than likely
responding to is a need being met, that may not be currently met by our spouse.
Some people have a problem with
this statement, they say to me "Nicola I would never cheat" that may
be so, but my experience has taught me that in certain circumstances and
conditions, many are susceptible.
2. Give your partner the 4 A's
Attention, Affection, Appreciation
and Admiration and they will reciprocate - the impact of this is massive.
Focus on turning these 4 A's into
actions you take daily, make it a habit to greet your partner when they come
home, kiss and cuddle them every morning and night, ask them how they are LatinFeels.com and really
listen, express and show appreciation for their unique qualities, not just a
"thank you" or "your great" be specific. Admire them, and
they will admire you - everyone loves to be admired.
3. Set boundaries and protect your
marriage
The best thing you can do for your
marriage if you feel yourself getting close to someone inside or outside of
work is to pull away and avoid being alone with that person. Ideally only see
them in group settings and decline any one on one invitations to protect your
marriage. Another thing that works well is to bring your spouse along to meet
them or invite them over for dinner with your spouse, it will change how you
interact and that is a good think if flirting has been going on. Some end up
avoiding the person, while that may seem a bit extreme... is your marriage and
family worth protecting? Most people say yes, especially those who have
cheated. Here you need to get honest with yourself.
4. Use fantasy or attraction to
improve your marriage.
If you do find yourself fantasying
about what it might be like to be with someone else or find yourself attracted
to someone else, look for what the fantasy or attraction could be telling you
about your relationship. Could it be a signal that you need more attention,
affection or a more fulfilling sex life? Is it highlighting that something is
missing? Can it give you clues of what you and your partner could to work on to
be happier? Analyze your thoughts and see what you can learn from them, they
can often teach us how we wish we were with our partner. Then you can use the information
to gently and carefully approach your partner and suggest ways you can
reconnect again.
I recommend you first ask them, how
they view the relationship, what they feel could be changed and what sounds
good to them to focus on. This open approach if done well, can spark change and
a new era for your marriage.
Note: These apply to those without
a sex addiction, for sex or porn addiction one or both in the couple benefit
from further support.
Marriage Transformation Specialist
and Founder of Save My Marriage Program
I specializes in a proven 10 step
program to help couples increase the love, passion and happiness in their
marriage in 30 days or less... Guaranteed!
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