Betrayal is a common occurrence. Research shows that a large proportion of partners betray their "loved ones". A person thinking that his/her partner is "unique", "special" and "exceptional" AnastasiaDate.com Reviews might stop thinking it after finding the partner has been unfaithful. After all, he/she has become "just like one of them", hasn't he/she? What follows is often sorrow, anger, sadness, confusion, self-doubt, blame, uncertainty, disillusion, and more.
Is it possible to trust a partner
that has betrayed you? Is it possible to forgive him/her when they ask that to
be given "one more chance"? Wouldn't his/her betrayal keep surfing in
your mind over and over again "until death will do you apart"? Does
time really heal all wounds?
Finding out that your partner has
cheated on you, two emotions, out of the many possible that might overcome you,
are often rage as well as sorrow. Feeling rage you feel victimized, let-down, AnastasiaDate unloved
and ignored. You then blame your partner for everything, deciding to punish
him/her, maybe even to leave the relationship.
Feeling sorrow is a little bit more
complicated. You then realize that whatever has happened and whatever you may
decide to do, it is your loss as well. You feel sorry about everything you have
cherished and believed in, which now blows up right in your face!
Not discounting the hurt you might
feel and all other emotions which engulf you, as well as your tendency to blame
your partner for all and everything that might have taken place within your
relationship for-who-knows-how-long-a-time-now, this might also be a time for
you to reflect about your relationship and about your part in it: were you
there for your partner? Were you open with one another? Have you shown respect
for each other? Have you communicated and conversed often about whatever AnastasiaDate.com is
important for you in life, work and in your relationship? Have you two devoted
enough time for each other, or was each one of you busy with his/her own work?
Whatever you notice, realize and
become aware of, it does not mean that you need to take the blame for your
partner's behavior. It only says that whatever has happened in your
relationship depended on the two of you, the dance you danced together, and you
too might take responsibility for whatever failures your relationship has
experienced.
You might feel hurt - that's for
sure; you might decide to "never-ever forgive and forget". This is
normal and humane. Yet, could there be anything that you did or didn't do in
the relationship that drove/pushed/motivated your partner to seek solace with
someone else? (Whatever you did or didn't do might still not justify your
partner's behavior).
However, taking responsibility,
looking inwards to look at your own attitudes and behaviors within the
relationship help you grow. "Using" this sad situation to wonder
about the way you handle yourself in a relationship can help you realize and
acknowledge - maybe for the first time ever - how you behave within a relationship,
what lessons you might need to learn and what changes you may want to consider
- for the benefit of your current relationship or next ones.
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